November 11 is Singles' Day. But can people in a relationship celebrate it too? Apart from being Armistice Day, since 1993, November 11 has also become synonymous with Singles' Day. Celebrating singlehood while commemorating the millions who fell in muddy trenches is a tad crass, I agree. But to be fair, the...
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Do you swear in bed? Does it turn you on to hear your lover curse at you while having sex? What is it that makes dirty talk so exciting in bed?...
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A second lockdown is looming and we have a question: how will our sex life survive COVID? Here's how to keep your sex life healthy during a second lockdown....
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Looking for a wearable, discrete vibrator for remote play with your partner and for solo pleasure? Read our independent review of the Vibease!...
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Sex writer, Peter Minkoff, gives us his 5 pegging tips every guy should know, especially for starters....
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Couple fights suck but are a part of any long-term relationship. How do they affect your sex life? Do you always make up before you make out? Or does the opposite work too?...
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Are you intrigued to buy OMGYES but you are not sure it’s worth its money? Here are 5 reasons why we think OMGYES will improve your sex life!...
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Truly innovative male sex toys may be rare, but The Handy gives penis owners something to truly delight in. Read our independent review....
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Getting older means more wrinkles, more backpains and less physical stamina. Luckily, there is an upside: sex gets better with time!...
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Think ‘sex toys for men’ and a cock ring is the first that comes to mind. Yet, many know of it but have never tried one. Is it worth trying a cock ring? Let's face it, the world of sex toys is mostly a female one. Dildos, clit-teasers, vibrators, anal beads, suction toys, nipple-rings,...
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Ruby is a qualitative, affordable sex toy designed to look like a playful jewel. Lightweight and pastel-coloured, Ruby promises to enhance sexual pleasure with your partner as well as self-pleasure for women. This is what we thought of it!...
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Interested in swinging? You're sure to have questions you'd like an answer to before taking your first step. These are 10 questions on the swinging Lifestyle answered by swingers. Aliki and I certainly wished we could do so before we had our first swingers experience. Not that anything went particularly wrong for...
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Season 2 of OMGyes plunges into the realm of vaginal stimulation in a scientific, yet playful way. It analyses and categorises female pleasure in an unprecedented manner, providing a modern online encyclopedia for techniques that didn't even have a name until recently. ...
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Virtual reality porn can help couples spice up their sex life. And if you're raising an eyebrow, it's normal. So did we, at first!...
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The Coronavirus lockdown hasn't been all bad. We have learnt a few lessons, and we have a few resolutions to keep after it is over....
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Ever find yourself wondering how you can spice up your sex life? Read our 10 ways to help you achieve it in no time. ...
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Sexy roleplay ideas can spice up your sex life with your partner. Erotic roleplay can be enticing, revealing and, above all, fun....
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Do you enjoy erotica? How about writing your own erotic stories and sending them to Couple of Secrets?...
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The COVID-19 pandemic and the resulting self-quarantine have put us all under new kinds of stress. Staying at home may sound like a panacea. Yet it deprives us of our regular day-to-day contacts and sources of entertainment. Most of us are spending an unprecedented length of time with our families....
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Bombarded as we are by dire news, it is easy to forget the sensual side of life. Here are 5 sexy things to do during lockdown with your partner Like everyone else, Aliki and I have been struggling with sexy things to do during lockdown. We find ourselves stretched to keep...
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Swinging safety is paramount. When it comes to combining the Lifestyle and Covid-19, how do you strike the right balance between careful and boring?...
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Le Boudoir swingers club styles itself as a top London lifestyle club. Spread over 3 floors, it certainly has a lot to offer. Here is our unbiased review....
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Are you an absolute beginner but still tempted by BDSM? Check out our interview with a professional Dominatrix before you take the plunge!...
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Guest bloggers Leja and Luka, from Spices of Lust, demystify the world of BDSM collars and why being collared matters....
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Tempted to try out swinging, but don't know how to choose your first swinging experience? Here are some tips to help you take your first step....
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Sex drive is a force of nature when you are glossy young and healthy. What happens though when your body is suffering? Is horniness just a response to physical stimuli or is it all in the brain?...
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The Lifestyle is not all about meeting at swingers' clubs. At some point, you are likely to consider inviting a couple over for sex at yours. Very early on, Aliki and I discussed how we felt about this. Our initial position was not to mix vanilla with Lifestyle. We were...
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Breaking your head about what to wear for your first time at a swingers club? Here is a guide with simple tips for women....
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Are we too old to start swinging? Couples often ask this before taking the first step into the Lifestyle. But there's no age for swinging. It's a mindset. ...
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2+2 Swingers Club in Pireaus, only 8 km from Athens centre, is definitely worth a visit for those who want to explore the Athenian lifestyle scene....
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Fantasizing about sex with your partner is a first step towards building a healthy sexual space in your relationship. But where do you draw the line?...
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Erotic photographer Fabrice de Bray talks to Couple of Secrets about the meaning of art, his everyday professional life and gives us crucial tips about how to prepare for the perfect erotic photoshoot! ...
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One of our first ground rules with Xander was to never mix lifestyle with vanilla friends. Our relationship has evolved a lot though and we find ourselves reconsidering. What are your ground rules for sexual exploration?...
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Finding your true sexual self is key to your happiness and relationship balance. Sexual authenticity may be elusive but achieving it is essential....
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What is sexy? If you think the answer is obvious, think twice. A quick discussion with your partner will show you how subjective sexiness is....
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Play is not only important for personal balance and development. Playing with your lover also a crucial factor for matrimonial bliss. So how do you play with your lover? ...
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For our post #100 I have decided to share with you something special: how I met Aliki. ...
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Dating your partner is highly rewarding. Sadly, for many, the dating period ends the moment a relationship starts. ...
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We had the pleasure of sharing our experiences with Men's Health magazine on sex party tips. Great article by Charlotte Grainger. Hope you enjoy the read!...
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Proposing kinky sex to your partner can be challenging, but this doesn’t mean that you have to wave goodbye to your plans of kinky sex with the one you love. All it takes is planning, careful tactics and lots of warming up to it!...
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Building a sexual space with your partner is one of the sturdiest foundations for a healthy sexual relationship. It is a space where you can be your true sexual self....
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Recently, I had a sexual fantasy come true. It was perfect. And yet, now I feel slightly deflated. Why?...
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Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a slice of Eros’ rosy realm. Instead, for many, it is a moment of sexual frustration, romantic nostalgia & stress. It is time to rediscover Valentine's Day! ...
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We do not consider ourselves full swingers. Sure we like to experiment sexually, but our relationship is definitely not open and we shudder even at the idea of polyamory between us. At the same time, we cannot claim with our hand on our heart to be monogamous either. Let's just...
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Wearing a cock ring is more than just sex play. It's a culture. Velv’Or founder and CEO, Jelle Plantenga, speaks to Couple of Secrets about cock rings and men’s health. ...
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Sex in real life isn't always harmonious. Desire for your partner might be alive and burning, but this doesn't mean that you're always attuned. So what do you do if you and your partner happen to be on different gears in bed? ...
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What is the male dress code for swingers clubs? This is probably a newcomer's first question. Here are our guidleines on what men wear at swingers clubs. ...
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Sex is just as much a physical need as hunger. What is your sex diet? Why do we allow ourselves to get sexually starved? Do you feed your sexual flame properly? ...
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The end of the year is a good time for sexual resolutions. It's an excuse to have a chat with your partner about your sexual fantasies and plan ahead. ...
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Last week we suggested 5 sexy gifts for you and your partner for Christmas. Read our new post this week for 5 sexy things to do together with your lover during Christmas break! ...
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Christmas is the perfect excuse to give your partner a sexy gift to please you both! Here are 5 sexy gifts guaranteed to spice up the Christmas spirit. ...
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Couple of Secrets has turned one! It has been an amazing journey together with you, our readers. Here's how we lived it. And please tell us what you like to read more of! ...
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Me dating another woman has been a fantasy of Xander and me for some time now. I know I will do it at some point. But dating women is still uncharted territory for me. ...
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On some days we're swingers. But on others we’re strictly vanilla. Our sexual life is much more than sex itself. It's a lifestyle. It's a sexual mindset. How do you define it? ...
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Darling Cabaret, in Prague, boasts an impressive variety of performers and sexy cabaret dancers. We chose it as one of our venues for a sexy date in Prague and it turned out to be fun. We were even picked up by a limo! ...
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Can abstinence revamp your sexual life? Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Perhaps what is true for ‘heart’ is even valid for your genitals. Then again, out of sight is out of mind...
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For our sexy weekend in Amsterdam we chose Dark dining. There is something deeply sensual about being deprived of sight and relying totally on touch. Especially if you are touching your object of desire! ...
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Aliki likes mastrubating on porn, especially Erika Lust. As her partner, I find it sexy. But my reptile brain rebels. Do women and men see porn differently? ...
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We all crave to be great lovers, to make our sex partners moan with pleasure. But what exactly is a good lover? ...
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Sexual frequency is often on our minds when we think of our relationship. But does it really matter? Is it all in the numbers? And do women and men both count? ...
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During our sexy weekend in Amsterdam, we visited La Vie en Proost. We loved one of their strippers; she had a big smile, sensual breasts and the stride of a dancer. I couldn't help asking her for a lap dance for Xander! ...
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Male sexual liberation is a real thing. Many grew up believing that alpha males don't give a moment’s consideration to emotions. That is thankfully changing. So are you more Johnny Depp or Bruce Willis? ...
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Cybersex is a poor replacement for actual closeness. But it still gives us a much-needed layer of sexiness and intimacy when Xander and I are apart. ...
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More and more straight men are (re)discovering the intricacies of anal pleasure. The Ancient Greeks had understood this a long time ago. They even considered it as 'virtuous'. While in my case I would not go as far, I am open (excuse the pun!) for new experiences and wanted to...
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Sexual experimentation consolidates your sexual space but can also get tricky. These are, according to our experience, the three most common (t)horny issues....
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The Circle Club combines a laid-back nightclub vibe with a classy swinging environment and is definitely one of our favourite Belgian swingers clubs. The Circle even has its own mobile app that allows you to chat with people in the club or perhaps even prepare a date in advance. ...
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It’s not like you'd not survive a swingers club without the right swinging terminology. But here are 15 swinging terms that should make your life easier. ...
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You know all the things you've been fantasising about for ages but you never get to realise? The fantasies that make your libido hit red, but are just outside your comfort zone? It's exactly these things we want to do during the Sextival! ...
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Threesomes are probably on the wish list of most men. But how do you actually go around doing it? Is there an art behind suggesting a threesome? Here are 6 casual (and not so casual) masculine ways of suggesting a threesome. ...
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Xander and I are Mediterranean in heart and soul. Out of the three S's we are lucky enough to have sex all throughout the year. Sea and sun are a different story unfortunately. Which is why we could never imagine a summer holiday without diving into those crystal blue waters...
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My friend, Peter has been mentioning his massage therapist for years. He has often casually referred to how he likes tantric massage and any kind of massage really. But Xander looks a bit intimidated. ...
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Aliki and I never made a conscious decision to adopt a libertine lifestyle. We just clicked together and set out to expand our sexual space together. Indeed, the libertine lifestyle is only a part of that sexual space. But an important part nonetheless. Here are our reasons why we do...
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I am not normally a morning type. Not when it comes to any kind of physical activity. No yoga, gym or running for me in the morning. Except when it comes to sex. ...
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Situated on the outskirts of Caen, in the Calvados, Le Beluga swingers club is comfortably close to the city. It is a modern libertine club run by a dedicated and passionate couple. Although a provincial club it was a true surprise. ...
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I am not a jealous person. But I admit that some female sexual advantages raise a certain amount of covetousness in me. Simply put, from a male perspective, there are serious sexual advantages to being a woman! And these are over and above the seemingly natural ease with which many women...
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You won’t be shocked to hear that I like women. Not all women of course. But certain women excite me with their delicate or bold beauty and the soft and sensual way they move and touch. ...
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Our usual roundup of sex-related news that has recently caught our attention. In this episode: More sex please! / Going solo / Mind the gap / Big sex is deadly / Disgusting sex ...
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I am no expert on the female period. We men are just wussies for whom the only cycles that matter are the one that alternates between slumber and wakefulness and the one that causes the empty stomach to rumble. When you are in a relationship however you have to face...
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On a night out at Fata Morgana, I met a girl from Argentina. We only kissed but she left her mark on me. Xander was very amused about how it all happened....
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Erika Lust creates ethically responsible and aesthetically attentive adult cinema. Her porn has a clear female flair. Don't be fooled by the word 'female' though. Erika does not make soft porn. ...
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I have come to the conclusion that the right dose of jealousy is healthy. There are limits of course. I cannot help feeling the prick when I see Aliki at the centre of male attention. Yet, at the right dose, that pain is both sexy and effective. It makes me...
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It is always a sign of deep complicity when two lovers experience simultaneous climax. What Aliki and I experienced in a small love-cabin with Frank and Jenny however, was something new altogether. It is an experience that both excited us and at the same time challenged us. ...
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Killing Kittens debut in the country of sexual liberalism didn't leave us disappointed. The venue was impressive, the decoration and the performers created an otherworldly atmosphere. And then we met the Nymph. ...
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Xander and I sometimes get in this silly, sexy mood. It doesn’t happen to us often, but every now and then we get these moments of puberal behaviour and I admit that I enjoy them to the full. Even if we happen to be in a swingers club, where sex...
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She was on her own, slightly distanced from the other couples, in a dark corner. A Nymph. Tall long legs, stilettoes, a curvy body and shoulder-length, black wavy hair. From her face I could only make out the big lips. The rest was covered by a black satin mask, abiding...
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While in Rio, Aliki and I decided to check out the Brazilian swinging scene first hand. We chose Boate 2a2 in Botafogo. Here is our unbiased review. ...
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This our first quick roundup of the sex-related stuff that has caught our attention in recent days. It has been, in fact, a very enlightening week, especially for men in search of self-improvement! ...
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Both users and sex professionals seem to agree: the womanizer is nothing like any other sex toy. I still haven't tried it but I am surely intrigued!...
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There's no better place to observe people than swingers clubs. Most of them are fun, respectful and relaxed people. There are, however, a few exceptions. These are 5 weird couples you may meet in swingers clubs. ...
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Are you getting too comfortable with your partner? Do you feel you are drifting apart? Are you thinking of doing dirty things to your woman, but you just don't dare to talk to her about it? Here are 5 reasons to cheat on your partner (and why you shouldn't)! ...
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Aliki and I discussed it in detail. Should we accept the invitation for a private sex party? Would it be too much outside our comfort zone? In the end, our curiosity had tipped the balance. ...
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Sharing sexy pictures with your partner can imply a strong complicity. Because even when he sees an impressive woman half-naked, he is thinking of me: how good that underwear would look on me; how sexy a picture of me in that same pose would be. In many ways, it is...
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Wouldn’t it be cool if we all knew more about female anatomy and sexual satisfaction? If we were all familiar with the exact details and techniques that make women tick? Welcome to the OMGYES project! ...
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The first time I was preparing for a swingers club was nerve-wracking. Do I need to give my name and address? Should I be early to check out the crowd or fashionably late? And above all, what am I supposed to wear?...
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She walked up to me, boldly. A smile played at the edge of her luscious lips. - ‘Waiting for someone?’ I took a sip of my Talisker, calmly. It afforded me a moment to study her. Long black hair, dark penetrating eyes, a tight burgundy turtle-neck hugging the contours of...
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